Work Life Balance

Creating a successful relationship takes effort; you need to put in a little work each and every day. The effort you put in should be done out of love without an expectation behind it. When you give willingly and without an expectation of something in return you reap the rewards in spades. It is kind of like a Bonsai tree, you need to prune it every day, water it carefully, lovingly. You need to take the utmost care to give it what it needs because if you forget one day, neglect it for just a little while, it will begin to whither. To bring it back to its former self not only takes perseverance, love and nurturing but an understanding of what happened in order to get it to where was before. When you are taking care of it you don´t have any expectations of getting anything back, but the feeling you get from watching the tree flourish and grow gives you satisfaction anyway. How do we create successful relationships in our lives on a consistent basis? What can we do to make sure that we are on the right track, encouraging and nurturing the relationship rather than sabotaging and neglecting it? The first thing you need to figure out what you want out of the relationship. What are your core values, what do you need to feel complete, and what inspires you. If you look at your life through someone else’s eyes, what does your life and your relationship look like? When you look at your life, look into all the corners, check every nook and cranny, is the relationship that you have now the same one that you had with this person years ago? Has it evolved into something unrecognizable? Why is it like that? You need to really ask yourself what is going on. Sometimes when we are in relationships we look only at what the other person is doing to irritate us. Are they unfair or unloving? What is unloving? How are they being unfair, and to whom are they being unfair. How did it begin? Was it always this way, or has something changed? What happened to change this relationship from happiness, love, mutual understanding and respect to something you don´t even recognize anymore. A place where respect is a legend and love is a fleeting feeling that comes and goes.

only when you have bee able to see te relationship in its truefomcan you begin to change it into somthing that you feel good about.

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Drifa Ulfasdottir Life Coach

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